charles_moeller
New Member
There’s this girl I’ve been playing tennis with for over 2 months now and she’s awesome, we get along so well and flirt a lot.
For a while I chose not to escalate because I was dealing with a recent break up (that she knew about) but this week I decided to ask her out. She said she liked me and thought we had a connection but felt she’d be a rebound given how short I was single for. She text me later saying she valued our friendship and cared for me.
I didn’t know how to react because we liked eachother and then I didn’t expect she’d want to be friends.
I think some foolish sense of pride/insecurity overcame me and I wrote back saying “I value her too and think she’s a great girl. However it’s hard for me because I’m sexually attracted and feel like I’d have to pretend to be friends which I don’t think I can do. The door is open if you change your mind”
she just wrote back “I understand” which made me feel **** because basically I’ve given her an ultimatum saying date me or take the high road which is stupid. Relationships are equal...
i text her back saying “on my part that’s a **** way to frame it given how awesome you’ve been the whole time. I enjoy our time together and ignore the previous message”
do you think I’ve blown it with her?
im expecting she’s turned off now and I should just move on
For a while I chose not to escalate because I was dealing with a recent break up (that she knew about) but this week I decided to ask her out. She said she liked me and thought we had a connection but felt she’d be a rebound given how short I was single for. She text me later saying she valued our friendship and cared for me.
I didn’t know how to react because we liked eachother and then I didn’t expect she’d want to be friends.
I think some foolish sense of pride/insecurity overcame me and I wrote back saying “I value her too and think she’s a great girl. However it’s hard for me because I’m sexually attracted and feel like I’d have to pretend to be friends which I don’t think I can do. The door is open if you change your mind”
she just wrote back “I understand” which made me feel **** because basically I’ve given her an ultimatum saying date me or take the high road which is stupid. Relationships are equal...
i text her back saying “on my part that’s a **** way to frame it given how awesome you’ve been the whole time. I enjoy our time together and ignore the previous message”
do you think I’ve blown it with her?
im expecting she’s turned off now and I should just move on