Give me one reason to stay here...

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Hi guys

Your passion for the room is heartwarming, it really is.

Firstly, will you please have some patience with me. I am the new admin and I am only starting to get my bearings.

Now some of the desisions I made recently I know havent been met with much enthuasism. I want to assure you that I have you the ******** safety and enjoyment at the top of my agenda.

So lets try address some of the reasons you guys are mad.

I made a male a mod, I did this because I know he also has user safety at the forefront of his mind. I would like to add that I am very proud of the fact that we have such a diverse group of moderators, we have a teenaged mod, we have an elderly mod (you no who u are), we have a mom, we have a trans mod and now we have a male mod. Yes, I agree with you that its important that we keep the chat room for girls and we should try our best to keep it that way. However, we cant stop males coming here so we must do our best to just tell them that they can be here but they must be respectful.

The user who floods, you all no who I'm referring to. I did this to maintain a positive chatter experience, lets face it, he makes the room unuseable when he decides to have his tantrum. He does this for hours and sometimes several days in a row. I am not buying into the nonsense that it has no impact on innocent ********. It does and I see it when he does it. Its impossible to chat or ignore the large blocks of texts he sends isnt it. I am not at liberty to say much more on this and that its been looked into currently by dialogue between me and the mods.

On the back of the above dialogue I have remade Zombie a mod (sorry zombie) and until we can tease out all the information to hand, we will look at what happens after that I guess, some mods may have some desisions to make perhaps, but hopefully not.

Again I urge your patience. Give me a chance, I want you guys to keep coming back, I want to grow our numbers and I want to ensure your safety. Thats all for now. Take care, be safe xxx.
 
maiseymac said:
Hi guys

Your passion for the room is heartwarming, it really is.

Firstly, will you please have some patience with me. I am the new admin and I am only starting to get my bearings.

Now some of the desisions I made recently I know havent been met with much enthuasism. I want to assure you that I have you the ******** safety and enjoyment at the top of my agenda.

So lets try address some of the reasons you guys are mad.

I made a male a mod, I did this because I know he also has user safety at the forefront of his mind. I would like to add that I am very proud of the fact that we have such a diverse group of moderators, we have a teenaged mod, we have an elderly mod (you no who u are), we have a mom, we have a trans mod and now we have a male mod. Yes, I agree with you that its important that we keep the chat room for girls and we should try our best to keep it that way. However, we cant stop males coming here so we must do our best to just tell them that they can be here but they must be respectful.

The user who floods, you all no who I'm referring to. I did this to maintain a positive chatter experience, lets face it, he makes the room unuseable when he decides to have his tantrum. He does this for hours and sometimes several days in a row. I am not buying into the nonsense that it has no impact on innocent ********. It does and I see it when he does it. Its impossible to chat or ignore the large blocks of texts he sends isnt it. I am not at liberty to say much more on this and that its been looked into currently by dialogue between me and the mods.

On the back of the above dialogue I have remade Zombie a mod (sorry zombie) and until we can tease out all the information to hand, we will look at what happens after that I guess, some mods may have some desisions to make perhaps, but hopefully not.

Again I urge your patience. Give me a chance, I want you guys to keep coming back, I want to grow our numbers and I want to ensure your safety. Thats all for now. Take care, be safe xxx.
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Oh yes, fresh and new.

And when I’m falling in love it will be forever!

Uh that maize is long and strong. Hehehehe.

Grow the numbers, yes, yes, yes, oh amor!

Now, now, you lot, stick a fork in it and let the las do her thing.

We’re rooting for yer Maisey Lasey!

@Baby Universal stop it, no dirty thoughts, root. 😉
 
The best thing to do is understand that yes, there have been some changes but the room is on the mend and will return to the way it was; a fun place for Girls to chat and be themselves. New leaders often make changes, sometimes they are out of the blue and seem unwelcome but there is a reason and we have to trust in the process. Things will work out, please do not be discouraged.

While males seem to be part of your issue, there is nothing that can be done about it. Girls Chat is an international community for girls and if guys want to be there, they need to be part of the community and not the problem. The best suggestions I can make is 'Ignore', and for those that cause problems take screen shots when you can and Report them, because of what they say and do, not just because they are male.

Don't give up, don't quit. Keep smiling and Spread the Laughter!
 
Brilliantly written. You are a credit to girls chat and chat avenue.
AshleeLightBringer said:
The best thing to do is understand that yes, there have been some changes but the room is on the mend and will return to the way it was; a fun place for Girls to chat and be themselves. New leaders often make changes, sometimes they are out of the blue and seem unwelcome but there is a reason and we have to trust in the process. Things will work out, please do not be discouraged.

While males seem to be part of your issue, there is nothing that can be done about it. Girls Chat is an international community for girls and if guys want to be there, they need to be part of the community and not the problem. The best suggestions I can make is 'Ignore', and for those that cause problems take screen shots when you can and Report them, because of what they say and do, not just because they are male.

Don't give up, don't quit. Keep smiling and Spread the Laughter!
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! Burnt Pizza said:
You should leave if coming to a room isn't fun anymore but if it isn't fun anymore then obviously leave. I stopped reading the post because it was really long so I'm making a generic statement that should fit anyone wanting to announce leaving
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One thing she mentioned was community. It seems to me that if you were indeed part of the community, if someone were to discuss leaving the room, you would be supportive of the room and the person, point out the positives and encourage the person to stay and not leave. Tells us a lot. So sad.
 
AshleeLightBringer said:
One thing she mentioned was community. It seems to me that if you were indeed part of the community, if someone were to discuss leaving the room, you would be supportive of the room and the person, point out the positives and encourage the person to stay and not leave. Tells us a lot. So sad.
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I could write and write on this topic but I’m going to not, all I’m going to say is, the room is your destiny. If your not getting what you want out of it then maybe it’s time to try a new room, if certain people causing certain issues, ignore em. Or try to talk to em and make up
 
DynamicDylan said:
I could write and write on this topic but I’m going to not, all I’m going to say is, the room is your destiny. If your not getting what you want out of it then maybe it’s time to try a new room, if certain people causing certain issues, ignore em. Or try to talk to em and make up
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Jamie03 said:
The Tracy Chapman song is great but it's not the reason for this post.

I joined Girls Chat almost three years ago. I was 16, in high school, and was trying to find a place to talk to about feelings and things in my life that I couldn't talk about easily in the real world, and hope that maybe some others had been in my spot and could offer their experience, strength, and hope.

In that time, I've graduated. We've seen the weird world of Covid. I'm starting college in a few weeks. I've made some incredible connections with people all around the world. I've been able to open up about things a lot more, and so much of that comes from talking to other members who had been in the same place that I was. And now, I'm in a place where I can help others and try to pay forward being the friend that those previous ones were to me.

I liked that. And I still like that.

But over this time, I feel that the sense of community that first drew me here has dwindled. Our only moderator who fits into the targeted audience of Girls Chat (girls aged 13 to 17) was fired today because of her refusal to kowtow to a person who is a longtime and well-known problem on this site. That person, despite a history of questionable behavior was apologized to and-- while not given carte blanche to do as he pleases-- was given the freedom to roam openly. Maybe you should ask Neville Chamberlain how well appeasement works. You know deep down that he will return to his old ways soon enough.

We have had to be accepting of having males in a place that's really not designed for them. We have one essentially serving as the #2 in charge now even after being fired previously. His history of harassment is well-known. I have talked to many girls who no longer feel safe here because he has been given power once again. I am among them.

I truly feel that the new administrator is indifferent toward what we as members actually want and only wants what will consolidate her power and make her job easier. I feel the site's owner only sees us as walking dollar signs-- a way to boost advertising revenue even though it (fortunately) isn't used here, and as easy targets for VIP sales.

I have people here I truly care about. I enjoy talking to them. We've come to be a part of each other's lives even if only in a small way. I'm really going to miss them if I leave.

But we've all become fed up and disgusted by all of the actions over the last month. And it makes me want to pack up and head off into the sunset.

I'm not the only one either. Several have already left. Others are cutting back how often they're here. And with the latest appeasement, several more have decided they're about to be done as well. You are not only losing your target audience, you are actively driving them away with the poor decisions that have been made recently.

So, give me a reason. Why should I stay here? Why should I recommend this place to others?

Because right now, I don't have a good reason.
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there isnt one
 
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