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What is your username in the room?: James49
Which room were you kicked/banned from? Sexchat
Are you complaining about a kick or a ban? Ban
What was the reason given for the kick/ban? Spam
How long was the kick/ban for? Unknown
Why do you feel the kick/ban was not justified? I was listing some rough kinks of my consenting partner. One of the words (unknown) in those kinks apparently triggered an "autoban" feature. I have this partner's consent, we were in a private message window, I was listing her kinks because she likes hearing them. I have read the rules and I think this may have been considered violence, but my partner and I have been chatting weeknights for weeks. We have a Dom/sub arrangement.
Date and approx. time of kick/ban: Friday, 4/18/25, 1104pm central daylight time
Do you know the name of the Moderator/Admin that kicked/banned you? I do not. I have private messaged Summer X, but she seems unresponsive in regards to the length of the ban.

I have been on this site for years. This is my first ban. I have not been notified of ban duration, and cannot seem to get a reply about that detail. My profile shows me as a generous gift giver, a friendly member, a dedicated member, with much experience. I have many many good experiences and good friends. I hope these facts are considered. I have many valued friends here. I am not a violent man, and was shocked that I was banned immediately with no warning given. I would only say rough words with consent of that specific partner, and in this specific case, those things said are her kinks. Her kinks are her kinks.... They are taboo, but I don't judge. The context of the banned word(s) was one of lasting consent. I've never been "violent" with anyone on this site. It's interesting to me how "automated' the ban was, and that automation has no understanding of context, in this case, the partner's consent. I have read the rules. Upon lifting of the ban, I will plan to recontact this partner and modify the content of our future chats. I refuse to be labeled a violent person, because those words said were in the context of a committed and loving D/s relationship. Outsiders have no knowledge of the depth of that connection. I am embarrassed. I am hurt. I miss my chat friends. No person is perfect... everyone makes mistakes or says things that they regret at one time or another. I am very sorry for all the trouble.
 
I'm not sure if you're reading your responses but here is the bottom line. I told you that I was not releasing the ban. You cannot imply rape or rape play bruises, etc.regardless if your friends are comfortable with it. They too are responsible for their actions also. Your post was explicitly violent. I understand your desire to get back to your friends but every word u have said in all the post abt this ban tells me that you feel comfortable with rape and female assault and you would only do it again. You asked abt the length of ban it is permanent
 
I have been banned for the reason of “spam.” I request an immediate lifting of this ban.

Spam is defined as “irrelevant or inappropriate messages sent on the internet to a large number of recipients.” I believe some sort of automated ban algorithm identified my speech as spam. My speech was not spam and my profile should not be banned. My speech occurred in a private message with one other person, not a large audience. My speech was intended for my partner’s eyes only. My speech was relevant and appropriate for that audience. For the algorithm to label my speech as spam, it does not account for context. The algorithm cannot know that I had been chatting with that partner daily for over two months and hundreds of hours. The algorithm cannot measure the trust and vulnerability that we share. The algorithm cannot know the magnitude and volume of sexual pleasure between us. The algorithm cannot understand domination and submission. The algorithm did not account for my partner’s complete consent which enables my ability to please her. In truth, no word ever spoken to this partner has been spam. No word is wasted. We hang on every word to each other. Every word has meaning. Every word brings pleasure and delight. I should not be banned for spam.
 
Fortunately for me, humans will determine to lift this ban, not machines. Humans can account for context. Humans can understand that two consenting partners in relationship have their own language, that those outside the relationship cannot decipher. I have inquired about my ban, and was not given spam as a reason, but instead, violence. It has been assumed that rough speech means deviant motive. This assumption ignores who I am personally, a pleasure provider rather than a harm dealer. It has been assumed that I offer such speech to multiple ********, and not exclusively this partner. This assumption again ignores the private room in which these words were spoken between two sexually intimate partners. This conclusion ignores that fact that my partner’s kinks are rough, and that she derives sexual pleasure from rough treatment. She gets off on it, sexually. My motive was pleasure, not harm.

I welcome examination of my “spam” in context. I invite humans to review my profile, and see the duration of experience on the site, the gift giving, the likes, the dedicated membership. I invite humans to contact any of my friends and ask them about their experiences with me. I welcome humans to examine my complete chat history, to learn more about my character. I suggest they start with the chat session in question and see if my partner was pleased or harmed.

I’m not a violent criminal. A criminal must have means, motive, and opportunity to commit a criminal act. I had no means to be violent with my consent partner… I have no tools to harm her. I had no motive in harming a woman that I have intensely loving feelings towards. I had no opportunity to harm her as she lives thousands of miles away. I am not a criminal and suggest that I no longer be treated as one.

I have uttered no spam. The reason for this ban is false. I appeal and propose an immediate lifting of my ban so I can resume my chats with this partner and my other friends.
 
Summer X said:
I'm not sure if you're reading your responses but here is the bottom line. I told you that I was not releasing the ban. You cannot imply rape or rape play bruises, etc.regardless if your friends are comfortable with it. They too are responsible for their actions also. Your post was explicitly violent. I understand your desire to get back to your friends but every word u have said in all the post abt this ban tells me that you feel comfortable with rape and female assault and you would only do it again. You asked abt the length of ban it is permanent
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You did not provide the length of ban in a timely fashion, hence the appeal. I want others eyes on this. You fashion me as a criminal.
 
Summer X said:
I'm not sure if you're reading your responses but here is the bottom line. I told you that I was not releasing the ban. You cannot imply rape or rape play bruises, etc.regardless if your friends are comfortable with it. They too are responsible for their actions also. Your post was explicitly violent. I understand your desire to get back to your friends but every word u have said in all the post abt this ban tells me that you feel comfortable with rape and female assault and you would only do it again. You asked abt the length of ban it is permanent
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Please Summer X, don't put words in my mouth. You assume motive. You assume I am comfortable with rape and female assault. You don't know me. I am comfortable with pleasing my partner according to her kinks. I am not a rapist. Examine my chat history, contact my, friends, do something besides assume that you know me.
 
And again please read here.

Summer X said:
I'm not sure if you're reading your responses but here is the bottom line. I told you that I was not releasing the ban. You cannot imply rape or rape play bruises, etc.regardless if your friends are comfortable with it. They too are responsible for their actions also. Your post was explicitly violent. I understand your desire to get back to your friends but every word u have said in all the post abt this ban tells me that you feel comfortable with rape and female assault and you would only do it again. You asked abt the length of ban it is permanent
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Hence you won't be unbanned.
 
JakeyWakey24 said:
And again please read here.


Hence you won't be unbanned
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I'm not a rapist, and I refuse Summer X's characterization of me as one. I'm being banned because of her assumptions, not my history on this site. She is convinced that I'm some sort of chat rapist. I doubt her research has been thorough; I encourage her to view my entire chat history before throwing me into the abyss. This feels more like an administrator power trip rather than an objective analysis. This feels like it's much more about her than me, but I don't assume motive. I humbly request an objective arbiter. People make mistakes every day... I made a mistake. I've owned up to that. Are first time bans always permanent on this site?
 
JakeyWakey24 said:
@Ness_eb @TheLeigh Admin request at close please and thanks! 🙂
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James49 said:
I'm not a rapist, and I refuse Summer X's characterization of me as one. I'm being banned because of her assumptions, not my history on this site. She is convinced that I'm some sort of chat rapist. I doubt her research has been thorough; I encourage her to view my entire chat history before throwing me into the abyss. This feels more like an administrator power trip rather than an objective analysis. This feels like it's much more about her than me, but I don't assume motive. I humbly request an objective arbiter. People make mistakes every day... I made a mistake. I've owned up to that. Are first time bans always permanent on this site?
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You can appeal your ban by PMing @Chatmaster by clicking on his name in this message in blue and clicking "start conversation." I'd encourage you to reel it in and keep your message short and sweet if you wish to make said appeal.
 
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