How to be happy and to love yourself?

ꞋꞌꞋ 𝐓𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐨 🎸

ꞋꞌꞋ 𝐓𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐨 🎸

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I know for some this is going to be hard, but will all of the trolls stay out of this thread? It isn't the time or place for that crap.

This is going to be very hard to put into words....

Over the past few years, the hate for myself is sky rocketing... and my happiness is at its very low.

When I look into a mirror, my face, body shape, skin color, everything disgusts me so much that I will throw up and break down. My self hate for myself has gotten to the point were I will harm myself (Physically or Mentally, but im not going into that). So from that I'm asking, how do you love yourself. It has been very difficult for me.... So any advice on that subject, I will love to hear.

Now to the point of my happiness, it has hit rock bottom, and anything triggers it now. For the past two months every night I just collapse and cry, and I dont stop till hours later. Nothing lately has made me truly happy, I'm always breaking down when I'm alone, and it's gotten to the point where I'm starting to feel like what's the point of living anymore... so any advice on how to be happy is welcomed

I've gone to multiple places that try to help me, I take breaks for stuff, I try to engage in the stuff that used to make me happy but so far nothing is working. Please give me advice, it's needed.

Notice: Please do NOT use the stuff I have said in this post against me, I know it's stupid to come onto a chat room and ask, but so far nothing is helping me, so I thought maybe if I asked some of you, maybe you guys have experience stuff like this and know how to help.

Hope all of this made sense.....
 
We are our worst critics. And honestly I’m probably not the best person to give advice because there are times I’m extremely hard on myself as well.

Self love can come in many different forms. It could be eating healthier, taking yourself out on a date, sleeping, being empowered to say no. But it’s definitely a muscle you have to continue working on in order to get better at it.

Something that helps me personally is talking about myself as if I’m talking about a friend. I will always hype up my friends because they are incredible humans. I do this in particular when I have to do self evaluations at work.
 
Also doing some internal digging and finding the root cause of the feelings and tackling it at the very source would be very helpful.

If you start to work on changing the things you hate about yourself (obviously everything cant be changed but some things can). Once u start to do something about what you can change you should feel a sense of purpose and hope. "Comparison is the thief of joy" as they say so try to stop that if thats what you've been doing.

Please, before you do anything drastic reach out to ppl you know you can depend on, and sometimes even a stranger in a chat can be helpful and insightful if u run out of ppl. Just please reach out before you act.
 
Naturally I've always been an overthinker about everything in my life & being able to control that to a degree has definitely led to me being a happier person.

It's easier said than done I know but only focusing on the things you can control & working on those makes everything feel a lot more manageable. It sounds cheesy but honestly being kind to yourself makes a difference - focus on the good things you've done & what you're good at, make time to do the things that you enjoy doing & absolutely don't sweat the small stuff.

The only life path is the one behind you & nothing in front of you is written yet. Sometimes stuff can seem too massive or too much of a fog to know where to start so just break it down into bitesize pieces and go from there. ❤
 
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Pandora said:
Cant leave a msg on your profile..just checkin' in and hope you're hangin' in there.
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I suppose I can say I'm doing a little better 💕, all of the advice has helped me so thank you all.

I haven't had a breakdown in a bit, probably all this week... but I still feel, depressed, unwanted, lonely, and all of the above but I am definitely hanging in there, thank you. Hope you're doing well also.

Means a lot that you decided to check up on me, thank you for that also 💕
 
Then everything goes down hill very quickly.... I thought the stuff you guys said has been helping, and don't get me wrong it did for a bit, till I started over thinking everything.

Dang it, ever feel like you're never gonna get better? Ive been talking to myself like I'm my own best friend, but I just feel like everything I've been saying to myself is a lie.

I've found multiple reasons of why I'm breaking down multiple times, but the thing is I can't let go of those things or those people, because it just comes running back and slapping me in the face. Stupid memories.

Don't get me wrong, I really want to feel better about myself and love myself, but it's so hard. My mind just races back to, if I deserved to be happy, then why can't I be happy, so then maybe if I can't I don't deserve it, same situation with people who leave, or things I lose.

To be honest, it's getting to the point where I'm physically getting sick and throwing up, I really don't want to tell anyone who knows me in real life because I'm afraid they will see and treat me different.

I just feel so... dead inside to say, to be honest, I'm losing hope more and more, but luckly it hasn't gotten to the point of every second of the day, and I'm trying to make sure it dosent.

If anyone else has advice or the same people who said advice has more advice I would like.

Sorry for this whole vent thread, I know it's childish and stupid.
 
ꞋꞌꞋ 𝐓𝐢𝐚𝐠𝐨 🎸 said:
Then everything goes down hill very quickly.... I thought the stuff you guys said has been helping, and don't get me wrong it did for a bit, till I started over thinking everything.

Dang it, ever feel like you're never gonna get better? Ive been talking to myself like I'm my own best friend, but I just feel like everything I've been saying to myself is a lie.

I've found multiple reasons of why I'm breaking down multiple times, but the thing is I can't let go of those things or those people, because it just comes running back and slapping me in the face. Stupid memories.

Don't get me wrong, I really want to feel better about myself and love myself, but it's so hard. My mind just races back to, if I deserved to be happy, then why can't I be happy, so then maybe if I can't I don't deserve it, same situation with people who leave, or things I lose.

To be honest, it's getting to the point where I'm physically getting sick and throwing up, I really don't want to tell anyone who knows me in real life because I'm afraid they will see and treat me different.

I just feel so... dead inside to say, to be honest, I'm losing hope more and more, but luckly it hasn't gotten to the point of every second of the day, and I'm trying to make sure it dosent.

If anyone else has advice or the same people who said advice has more advice I would like.

Sorry for this whole vent thread, I know it's childish and stupid.
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It's not stupid and it's not childish. you need help and there isn't anything wrong with that. I really believe that you need to consult with a therapist or psychiatrist.
 
Miss Mushroom said:
It's not stupid and it's not childish. you need help and there isn't anything wrong with that. I really believe that you need to consult with a therapist or psychiatrist.
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🙁 You know how bad it's gonna look that a guy who is getting his degree to be a therapist needs a therapist?

I've tried to speak to multiple therapist before, I just shut down, I don't want someone to say I'm mentally crazy and fucked up in my brain.

But yes I do agree with you, just now, everytime you look for a therapist they cost money and it's only for like 30 minutes for 3 months, it takes me too long to trust someone, especially since they are just for 30 minutes. But thank you, I do agree with this 💕
 
To find happiness and love yourself, start by celebrating the parts of you that make you uniquely you. See every mistake as a step in your adventure, not a stumble. Treat yourself with the kindness and attention you'd give to someone you're wooing. Be your own biggest fan, cheering yourself on instead of critiquing. And remember, let others inspire you, not define your path.
 
Great words! Being happy and loving yourself starts with taking small steps to focus on what truly matters to you. Surround yourself with positivity, take care of your mental and physical health, and work on achieving your goals. Sometimes, even sorting out practical things like finances can bring peace of mind. For example, reaching out to services like Zimran can help you manage your financial stress, which often makes it easier to focus on self-love and happiness. It’s all about balance and taking it one step at a time
 
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