It frustrates me that I want a boyfriend but I probably can't get one?

potatochan said:
Don't rush. It takes time. Focus on yourself first.
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Hey sister I hope you read this because I understand how you feel. For years I felt like love was hopeless. I kept trying to find online and in person but i was and still am very awkward.😅 But when I just stopped looking I started looking some friends. I met this woman and we became best friends over night. Soon that friendship turned to love and here I am today happy because I didn't find love, It found me. One day it will find you to and until then I'm always here for you as your brother and friend.🤗
 
Ragnar Lothbrok said:
Hey sister I hope you read this because I understand how you feel. For years I felt like love was hopeless. I kept trying to find online and in person but i was and still am very awkward.😅 But when I just stopped looking I started looking some friends. I met this woman and we became best friends over night. Soon that friendship turned to love and here I am today happy because I didn't find love, It found me. One day it will find you to and until then I'm always here for you as your brother and friend.🤗
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Awww, happy for you! I hope you two will be together till the end. But who knows! Life is full of surprises though but still, charge to experienced.
That is why I won't rush things now, lol. The more you rush, the more it takes long to come or sometimes it won't. Thank you and same goes here, brother! - sister chan 💃🥔
 
im sorry but u cant just automatically get love because u want love. love is something u get from interacting with people naturally, without the intention of lov. just talk to people normally and befriend them and eventually one of those friendships will end up in lov
 
Justin Case said:
Sorry to say he doesn't seem to be a very nice guy I lived much of my life as a pessimist never getting my hopes up mostly because I don't like to be disappointed and it gave me fake help getting thew some situation but it puts stress on your body, mind,and soul that's not needed I listened to someone for the first time in my life and what they said to me was profounding they said if you surround yourself with good and positive people you start acting that way you're self but being around negative people that are Downer's with no ambition or drive they bring you along with them for the ride but stay positive it's hard to do but it does help I'm reading a book right now that you might be interested in would you like to title
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That’s a lot of words, guy. Try and be more concise if you want to say something important.

Ilovecolors said:
It frustrates me it could be why I'm way way way below a 0 on the beauty scale physically or a 1 on the beauty scale physically .
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It isn’t necessarily just about how a person looks. It’s about how you act and think and feel. If you put your personality out there then someone will take notice. That’s a sure thing.
 
SerenityMoon said:
There are no straight men worth flirting with.
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Nothing but the truth.

Anyways @Ilovecolors getting someone to notice you isn't really difficult, you just need a few social skills and confidence to start talking (both you can fake till you're good at them)

Don't approach them as a potential lover... more of an annoyance in your life. Be uninterested but flirty, or be interested but don't catch feelings. There's always a chance they don't like you back and if you catch feelings early, it's only you that's sad in the end.

"more of an annoyance in your life" --> Why?
1. You are more open to talking to them like a normal person and not feel awkward. After all, you don't mean any of those flirty jokes, right (right...? 😉)
2. People want what they can't have. If you give them all your love, they will go and love someone else. Even in a committed relationship, this holds true. All the lovers out there will be like "I love him/her with all my life and will never change" yet seek those fun sexual stuff to spice up the relationship. Why? Because it's new and they want something different, something they have not had.
3. You will know right away if there is potential. If you flirt with someone with the thought of a committed relationship, you miss a lot of red flags and there's a bias from the beginning. If you flirt casually and be a little annoying, all the fun stuff comes out (e.g. jealousy, needy) but if you can handle them or if they can handle your bs, you just know it could potentially work.

"confidence" --> Why?
1. People are mentally wired to only want to talk to others "at their level". If you lack confidence, you put yourself at a disadvantage because even if you are the most interesting person, they don't perceive you to be "at their level" because you are unable to communicate your interestingness.
2. It's hot. It shows you are comfortable with yourself and is a good starting point for a relationship. I don't know about you but I don't want to date an insecure person because then I would have to spend all my energy making sure they are ok every day. You could be a 5, but if you are confident, you can be an 8. (Don't believe me? There's this little room on CA called the Gay Chat, a 5 goes to an 8 on there real quick... that's a joke lol)

At the end of the day tho, don't fake your personality. You can fake social skills but don't try to change who you are for someone else. As a very wise person once said
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If you say you cannot then you cannot. Feck, give yourself a chance.
 
You can date anyone you want if you date them exclusively in your head. That works for someone on this site. They’ve dated nearly every guy they know
 
Finn2.0 said:
You can date anyone you want if you date them exclusively in your head. That works for someone on this site. They’ve dated nearly every guy they know
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Remember that walk in the park toosh?
 
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