My advice on dating.

Its a sad fact of life that hearts get broken. If everything was perfect it would be living, I mean what would you need to learn if everything was perfect.

Not knowing what is about to come is the exciting part, fearing failure will just hold you back.

Being on the spectrum, well once someone can see you for you, the spectrum won't be an issue.

Peace out
 
Baby Universal said:
Its a sad fact of life that hearts get broken. If everything was perfect it would be living, I mean what would you need to learn if everything was perfect.

Not knowing what is about to come is the exciting part, fearing failure will just hold you back.

Being on the spectrum, well once someone can see you for you, the spectrum won't be an issue.

Peace out
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Thank you.
 
GET BILLZONED said:
I have been on that spectrum where my heart has been broken several times. And if they say they're not going to break you heart for me that is just been a lie.
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A serious question are you on the Spectrum? I can see how dating would be hard with someone on the autism spectrum. With difficulties understanding social cues it must drive a person nuts with autism to date. I have not dated in 25 years. Mainly cause my wife would get pissed.
 
Putting yourself out there does involve risk. I don't think anyone goes into a relationship planning on breaking a heart. It's an unavoidable consequence when one person decides to leave. And when that happens, it's rare it's a mutual parting of the ways. More often than not, one person has been planning it and emotionally prepared when they drop the bomb and the other person is blindsided.
 
NavyWings said:
Putting yourself out there does involve risk. I don't think anyone goes into a relationship planning on breaking a heart. It's an unavoidable consequence when one person decides to leave. And when that happens, it's rare it's a mutual parting of the ways. More often than not, one person has been planning it and emotionally prepared when they drop the bomb and the other person is blindsided.
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Lies! @NavyWings

Tell em. Tell em, how you broke my heart with that “horse faced” chick from downtown.

Just because she had a bigger buttocks than I!
Oh Navy why you spread yer wings with another?

I thought you were somebody!

🤭
 
1. Humans suck 2. some humans suck less than others 3. love you because your worth your own love and at some point that energy that needs to be in your life will find it's way sometimes you got to fall down and get a little muddy before you get back on the horse . 4. clone yourself and date yourself .. you already know you'll have a good amount of things in common.
 
MissMotive said:
Yes, there is no Mr Motive.
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Who cares about a Mr.!?!?!? 😊

But to the point of the thread:
I'm guessing I'm kind of on my own here (or of a very small number) being happily married...but I did want to say that making yourself vulnerable after having your heart broken is very, very tough. Probably one of the toughest things that you can do. And...a lot of people do not do it ever again. I didn't think I would. But my partner gave me no damn choice when she walked in the door my our apartment one day.

My advice? Just keep yourself open. Do not compare yourself to others but also don't despair. Like others have said, learning to care for and like or even love yourself is a great first step in life, no matter if it ends in a relationship or not.

But for me, opening myself up again after being utterly destroyed was worth it in the end. And it's never too late, really.

P.S. There's a thousand good songs either way you go, there's always someone who has experienced something close to what you have and they've written all these songs, books, movies, etc. for us to show us that we're not alone experiencing the human condition. Take solace in that, at the very least.

"I have always wanted a Bonsai tree though." Says me, the woman who actually killed a cactus. 💁🏻‍♀️
 
Everyone also hears that whole cheesy cliche "there's one person out there for everyone." False I think Love takes many forms and regardless of whether you're in a monogamous relationship or whatever the preference . We can love different people and learn in different ways . My dad was married for 38 years to my mom till she passed away from cancer. He's 58 and after going through the grief process for the past year .. I don't think he's necessarily looking to fall in love but he misses companionship.. someone who laughs at your stupid jokes, talks to you about any and everything , goes for a sunday drive out through the countryside and I imagine while solitude is great getting older and being alone can be a tad scary. You'll know when it feels right. The best thing is building a foundation from a good friendship that organically grows into something deeper.
 
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