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AshleeLightBringer

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Girls Chat is an international community where girls from the age of 13 and up, from all walks of life, who are all shapes, sizes and colors, and can get together and be ourselves. A place where we can chat about what’s happening in our lives, our loves, our likes, dislikes, our love for food, and so much more.

As girls, we sometimes bash each other, as well as males; it's what girls do, sorry boys. But, for some reason there are those, well, at least one and his best friend, and his bestie enlists this spammer who was gifted him with VIP to upset the room because they are best friends, but mostly he takes offense at comments against males, even if they are simple comments and jokes and is vocal about it. Apparently he has no sense of humor. He refers to us as sexist, racist and more, but appears to be okay with jokes against females and especially female bashing… hmm. Makes you wonder…

It doesn’t matter if you were born a girl or are trans, you’re a girl, and you are welcome. Sometimes there are those that try to get weird and perv out; both male and female. Sometimes we engage these idiots, which we shouldn’t, but that’s not the point.

But, this VIP has encouraged girls to simply put these people on Ignore… Oh wait, I mean those who people who are nude in their pfp’s and backgrounds, who spew profanity and make sexually explicit comments aimed at girls, especially under-age girls. Yet, he does not. Why?

This person exclaims that it’s okay for guys to have side rooms for guys only, males only and men only but it shouldn’t be allowed for girls to do the same thing. Huh? What? Why? It’s because he says it’s sexist against males. What? Yet, he won’t explain his rationale. This man only ever reports girls for what they say, even if it’s not against the rules, but ‘never’ reports guys for whatever they say or do. Why? Is it because he enjoys the nudity and perversion? Hmm. Makes you wonder.

This person never reports such actions as stated, claiming that “girls will report it so why should I?”, yet this person encourages girls to simply ignore this systemic sexism and sexual harassment and abuse. It would seem that this person must actually encourage and endorse this sort of perverted behavior. This person has actually purchased VIP status for a known spammer, and as some have accused as a pedophile, not just in this room but in Lesbian Chat.

This man obviously has no intention of being ‘part of our community’ but rather some sort of overseer, trying to dominate what we say and do and promote pedophilic behavior. He seems to have a “Don’t Dot As I Say, Do As I Do” attitude.

That is why each and every girl in Girls Chat must put this sexist, misogynistic pig on Ignore; do not engage with this man, do not allow him to insinuate that what a girl might say or do is sexist. By doing so is only proving that a man, in Girls Chat, trying to tell girls what we can and cannot say is the one that is a sexist and misogynist.

Keep Smiling, Spread the Laughter and keep Girls Chat for Girls! Males are welcome but All Males need to be respectful, and be respectful, and understand that this is Girls Chat… Not man-boy chat! So let girls be girls and if you don’t like it = LEAVE!
 
First, I want to say Im sorry you have this frustration and are upset.

A couple points I want to hit on here. One being, nobody dictates the room aside from CM himself. He has his guidelines to which staff have to follow and enforce. Generally speaking, not even just this situation, no single user has the ability to set the terms of a room. You are not forced to abide by what another user wants. As far as the side room mention, no user dictates what side rooms can exist and which cant. Again, this is rules set forth by staff and CM. That all varies by room of course as well. Lastly on a single user dictating things, yes it is odd if anyone doesnt feel the need to report that truly harmful things. You know I and the other moderators always ask for the truly harmful stuff to always be reported so it doesnt fall onto another users, especially the younger ones.

Another point is making the room inclusive. Yes, its IS a Girls Chat. That being said, there are numerous reasons why males are allowed. The two biggest being it would be impossible to fully secure a females only room, but also because there are truly decent guys out there. We currently have a few that contribute to the room very well and I personally believe add to the positive atmosphere. That banner you see when you enter, that was put there by those higher than room staff. What does that banner say? "If respectful". So your feelings and what you see/dislike HAVE been taken into account. The goal is always to make it fair around the board and I personally believe that is the best route as well.

If you, your friends, or anyone feel threatened or uncomfortable, you can always contact a moderator or the room admin to help. I try to always make it clear Ill be there for you all whenever needed. If Im online, my PMs are open to room issues no matter if we have to address it every day for a month, Im here to help. Proof of such things will always be needed of course, I know youre aware of that.

Lastly, tagging @maiseymac as shes the room admin and may have her own thoughts and advice on this matter and how to go about handling it in the future 🙂
 
Girls Chat is an international community where girls from the age of 13 and up, from all walks of life, who are all shapes, sizes and colors, and can get together and be ourselves. A place where we can chat about what’s happening in our lives, our loves, our likes, dislikes, our love for food, and so much more.

As girls, we sometimes bash each other, as well as males; it's what girls do, sorry boys. But, for some reason there are those, well, at least one and his best friend, and his bestie enlists this spammer who was gifted him with VIP to upset the room because they are best friends, but mostly he takes offense at comments against males, even if they are simple comments and jokes and is vocal about it. Apparently he has no sense of humor. He refers to us as sexist, racist and more, but appears to be okay with jokes against females and especially female bashing… hmm. Makes you wonder…

It doesn’t matter if you were born a girl or are trans, you’re a girl, and you are welcome. Sometimes there are those that try to get weird and perv out; both male and female. Sometimes we engage these idiots, which we shouldn’t, but that’s not the point.

But, this VIP has encouraged girls to simply put these people on Ignore… Oh wait, I mean those who people who are nude in their pfp’s and backgrounds, who spew profanity and make sexually explicit comments aimed at girls, especially under-age girls. Yet, he does not. Why?

This person exclaims that it’s okay for guys to have side rooms for guys only, males only and men only but it shouldn’t be allowed for girls to do the same thing. Huh? What? Why? It’s because he says it’s sexist against males. What? Yet, he won’t explain his rationale. This man only ever reports girls for what they say, even if it’s not against the rules, but ‘never’ reports guys for whatever they say or do. Why? Is it because he enjoys the nudity and perversion? Hmm. Makes you wonder.

This person never reports such actions as stated, claiming that “girls will report it so why should I?”, yet this person encourages girls to simply ignore this systemic sexism and sexual harassment and abuse. It would seem that this person must actually encourage and endorse this sort of perverted behavior. This person has actually purchased VIP status for a known spammer, and as some have accused as a pedophile, not just in this room but in Lesbian Chat.

This man obviously has no intention of being ‘part of our community’ but rather some sort of overseer, trying to dominate what we say and do and promote pedophilic behavior. He seems to have a “Don’t Dot As I Say, Do As I Do” attitude.

That is why each and every girl in Girls Chat must put this sexist, misogynistic pig on Ignore; do not engage with this man, do not allow him to insinuate that what a girl might say or do is sexist. By doing so is only proving that a man, in Girls Chat, trying to tell girls what we can and cannot say is the one that is a sexist and misogynist.

Keep Smiling, Spread the Laughter and keep Girls Chat for Girls! Males are welcome but All Males need to be respectful, and be respectful, and understand that this is Girls Chat… Not man-boy chat! So let girls be girls and if you don’t like it = LEAVE!
Hi red I totally get it. It really is like a school yard at times where some just think its funny to upset others. I prefer to ask some simple questions, 'Does a person accept the rules of the chat room', 'Do you not understand the social conventions of a conversation', and 'What is your true purpose of coming into a chat room just to complain'. I am pretty sure this person has outlasted his time in many room.
 
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Honestly, girls chat is done at this point, a shadow of its former classic-chat self before the move to its current version. I don’t see a recovery for it. It’s a negative point of view but the bad apples have won. It should just just be renamed the spam or flooding room.

P.D who the bad apples are is down to your own opinion!
 
Honestly, girls chat is done at this point, a shadow of its former classic-chat self before the move to its current version. I don’t see a recovery for it. It’s a negative point of view but the bad apples have won. It should just just be renamed the spam or flooding room.

P.D who the bad apples are is down to your own opinion!
Nah, despite setbacks, or I guess attempted set backs by some, I firmly believe we have a great room and Ill always put forth my best effort to make it as enjoyable as possible. There are a lot of amazing people in the room. Ive developed quite a few awesome friendships and tend to frequently. Plenty of bright stars in Girls Chat and that will always solidify that the bad apples havent won 🙂
 
Fun vampires abound
With them no fun found
Mansplaining is their thing
Oh I wish they could feel the sting
Of my boot laying in
Booting them would underpin
The revival again of fun
All the fun they have undone

Mate we do feel your pain, people cant be kicked or banned unless there is clear evidence of rule breaks.

Ignore for those who skirt the edges or decency and rules is your best tool.

We act as soon as we have hard evidence of rule breaks.
 
Nah, despite setbacks, or I guess attempted set backs by some, I firmly believe we have a great room and Ill always put forth my best effort to make it as enjoyable as possible. There are a lot of amazing people in the room. Ive developed quite a few awesome friendships and tend to frequently. Plenty of bright stars in Girls Chat and that will always solidify that the bad apples havent won 🙂

Maybe I’m wrong but I’m still not positive, I notice the former admin is now friends with the spammer/room flooder in lesbian chat even after everything he did while she was in charge, all the times he called her immature, a moron, a useless admin, they now have each other in their friends list! I did have some sympathy for her but that’s gone now. It wouldn’t surprise me if she’s encouraging him to continue his room disruption out of spite.
 
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