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Why are you responding to a question intended for gays?
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Cause I'm queer. Nothing sus about that.
 
Why am I gay?

Its not really complicated: I've never felt attracted to females at all, when I was under 19 my parents would literally force dating a girl onto me, they would set up these dates with random females I never even knew.

Being gay or apart of lgbtq+ was strictly forbidden in my house, when I turned 14 I had the biggest crush on a 16 year old male, it wasn't really surprising for me because I would have the biggest crushes on all of these guy celebrities, but my dad told me that if I ever started liking guys he would kick me out of the house, but I started dating that 16 year old, and they didn't find out till I was 17 and kicked me out of the house for 6 months when they found out because he k/lled himself, and told his family too tell me.

To me, being attracted and loving the gender that I like just feels very right. No matter what people say about being gay, but I've learned over the years that the lgbtq+ community isn't even supportive to their own community. If I could stop being gay I would to be honest, but I can't and won't because as a guy, loving a guy just feels right.

Edit: If anyone has a problem with that, please f/ck off, sometimes a negative opinion isn't needed, and people need to learn that.
 
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And why do you think you're straight?
This is a thread for gays who want to and choose to respond, to answer why they are gay.

This is not a thread for people to harass me or question me about my sexuality. If you want to make a thread asking why straight people are straight go ahead and do so. If you want to ask me about my sexuality do so outside of this thread. At this point its harassment and you should stop.
 
Why am I gay?

Its not really complicated: I've never felt attracted to females at all, when I was under 19 my parents would literally force dating a girl onto me, they would set up these dates with random females I never even knew.

Being gay or apart of lgbtq+ was strictly forbidden in my house, when I turned 14 I had the biggest crush on a 16 year old male, it wasn't really surprising for me because I would have the biggest crushes on all of these guy celebrities, but my dad told me that if I ever started liking guys he would kick me out of the house, but I started dating that 16 year old, and they didn't find out till I was 17 and kicked me out of the house for 6 months when they found out because he k/lled himself, and told his family too tell me.

To me, being attracted and loving the gender that I like just feels very right. No matter what people say about being gay, but I've learned over the years that the lgbtq+ community isn't even supportive to their own community. If I could stop being gay I would to be honest, but I can't and won't because as a guy, loving a guy just feels right.

Edit: If you have a problem with that, please f/ck off, sometimes a negative opinion isn't needed, and people need to learn that.
Do you have siblings in your household and how were they treated compared to you(dating)?
Do you think they forced you to date girls because they suspected you were gay?

You mentioned that if you could stop being gay you would, What is the basis for this thought and why do you think or feel like you cant?
 
Do you have siblings in your household and how were they treated compared to you.
Do you think they forced you to date girls because they suspected you were gay?

You mentioned that if you could stop being gay you would, What is the basis for this thought and why do you think or feel like you cant?
I have 2 twins a boy and a girl, my sister is straight and she was definitely treated differently from me, she was my parents little "Angel" (Spoiled brat) - My brother is bisexual but isn't interested in the sexual part of men, he was treated differently from me sorta, they forced him to date females too but he didn't give a f/ck.

(5-7 years older siblings) I had 3 older siblings a sister that was trans (Female to Male) and she was interested in females, but she committed suicide because of the pressure my parents put on her and she wasn't understanding anything about herself anymore. Then we have my older brother he was straight, I didn't see him much because he didn't really stay at the house (He died last month in a car crash). Then we have my oldest brother he is gay, had a boyfriend at the time but didn't stay at the house because my parents wouldn't let him, but he is now married to the same guy and has 3 adopted children.

Do you think they forced you to date girls because they suspected you were gay?
Definitely, they thought if they set up these dates with females they thought I would be interested in I would stop liking guys, I mean it was pretty obvious that I liked guys when I turned 11, I would talk about have guys were so freaking cute and handsome all of the time.

You mentioned that if you could stop being gay you would, What is the basis for this thought and why do you think or feel like you cant?

I don't really understand they word "basis" but I will try to explain. The reason why I would stop being gay is because because these days the lgbtq+ community isn't even getting along with its own community. I hate how if a person not in the lgbtq+ community makes a comment about lgbtq+ community they are marked as harassing them, even when its just a freaking opinion, but then we have the lgbtq+ community making harassment comments about their own community and no one does anything.

When you like guys, you can't just stop liking guys, you would be hiding behind a person who isn't the real you. I can't just stop liking the gender I like so I can't really stop being gay.

Edit: Sorry if this is Tl/Dr, my grammar and spelling might not be spot on, but I tried to explain.
 
I think the mistake and falsehood of this thread is that he's trying to prove that it's a choice or imply that it is. Which is why I asked why he was straight. He's not looking for answers. It's an inflammatory implied question with immediate homophobic predetermined outcomes.

@Apollo @Ness_eb @H.R. PufnStuf can you close this for bullying
He isn't attacking anyone, He isn't bullying, he is asking a honest question, if a gay person doesn't know why they are gay, how could they know they are gay?
 
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No, he's literally asking why are you gay. That's the same as asking when did you decide to be gay or why do you think you're gay. He's basing the post based on the assumption that you aren't born gay or you aren't just gay. It's a micro aggression that's trying to invalidate the queer experience. It's hateful and bullying.
 
No, he's literally asking why are you gay. That's the same as asking when did you decide to be gay or why do you think you're gay. He's basing the post based on the assumption that you aren't born gay or you aren't just gay. It's a micro aggression that's trying to invalidate the queer experience. It's hateful and bullying.
😭 Man, my apologies, I didn't realize that. F/ck this, and I thought he was being kind. If that is his intentions @Apollo @H.R. PufnStuf @Ness_eb Close the thread for what @StubleU said, please, if I can ask that.

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I have 2 twins a boy and a girl, my sister is straight and she was definitely treated differently from me, she was my parents little "Angel" (Spoiled brat) - My brother is bisexual but isn't interested in the sexual part of men, he was treated differently from me sorta, they forced him to date females too but he didn't give a f/ck.

(5-7 years older siblings) I had 3 older siblings a sister that was trans (Female to Male) and she was interested in females, but she committed suicide because of the pressure my parents put on her and she wasn't understanding anything about herself anymore. Then we have my older brother he was straight, I didn't see him much because he didn't really stay at the house (He died last month in a car crash). Then we have my oldest brother he is gay, had a boyfriend at the time but didn't stay at the house because my parents wouldn't let him, but he is now married to the same guy and has 3 adopted children.

Do you think they forced you to date girls because they suspected you were gay?
Definitely, they thought if they set up these dates with females they thought I would be interested in I would stop liking guys, I mean it was pretty obvious that I liked guys when I turned 11, I would talk about have guys were so freaking cute and handsome all of the time.
Sorry for your loses. By all probability i am astonished at how many people turned out to be gay in your household when your parents disapprove of it. Do you think perhaps your sexuality was a rebellion to your parents for as how your siblings were treated or what happened to your sibling?
You mentioned that if you could stop being gay you would, What is the basis for this thought and why do you think or feel like you cant?

I don't really understand they word "basis" but I will try to explain. The reason why I would stop being gay is because because these days the lgbtq+ community isn't even getting along with its own community. I hate how if a person not in the lgbtq+ community makes a comment about lgbtq+ community they are marked as harassing them, even when its just a freaking opinion, but then we have the lgbtq+ community making harassment comments about their own community and no one does anything.

When you like guys, you can't just stop liking guys, you would be hiding behind a person who isn't the real you. I can't just stop liking the gender I like so I can't really stop being gay.

Edit: Sorry if this is Tl/Dr, my grammar and spelling might not be spot on, but I tried to explain.
And this is why. If anyone else makes a mention of the lgbt community they immediately start to harass and label them homophobes. They are doing the very thing they wish not to be done onto them.
I think the mistake and falsehood of this thread is that he's trying to prove that it's a choice or imply that it is. Which is why I asked why he was straight. He's not looking for answers. It's an inflammatory implied question with immediate homophobic predetermined outcomes.

@Apollo @Ness_eb @H.R. PufnStuf can you close this for bullying
You are the only one implying anything. You dont know what im looking for, you are not a mind reader and you are not my brain.
He isn't attacking anyone, He isn't bullying, he is asking a honest question, if a gay person doesn't know why they are gay, how could they know they are gay? Besides, when does this chat close something for bullying?

@H.R. PufnStuf @Ness_eb @Apollo
This thread doesn't need to be closed because he isn't attacking anyone yet. If he starts attacking someone then close the thread.
I am asking for experiences.

These people hate me because of my sexuality and religion. The only time they do is when they want to bully someone just as theyre allowing this person to harass me.


I am not questioning my own sexuality.
 
Here comes the gay hipocrissy.
Why are you gay?
No, he's literally asking why are you gay. That's the same as asking when did you decide to be gay or why do you think you're gay. He's basing the post based on the assumption that you aren't born gay or you aren't just gay. It's a micro aggression that's trying to invalidate the queer experience. It's hateful and bullying.
Then rephrase the question in a way that isn't a micro aggression
Apparently we live in a world where asking people that CHOOSE to respond to the question: why are you gay? is considered micro agression.
why do you claim to be straight?
And why do you think you're straight?
But asking why do you THINK you are straight and why do you CLAIM to be straight is not. When they know i identify as straight male.
 
One is clearly harassing me about my sexuality by implying im making false statements about myself and the other is simply asking for personal experiences to those that wish to respond.
 
Well I'm bi because certain things were brought upon me that shouldn't have been as a kid. But honestly I just find the body of both a man and a woman attractive. Growing up I was too young to really understand what it was and really couldn't see myself dating a woman tbh especially since I literally couldn't anyway because I was raised in a christian home with a religious grandmother that always hoped for my sister and I to get married at an appropriate age to another Christian man and have kids.
 
Well I'm bi because certain things were brought upon me that shouldn't have been as a kid. But honestly I just find the body of both a man and a woman attractive. Growing up I was too young to really understand what it was and really couldn't see myself dating a woman tbh especially since I literally couldn't anyway because I was raised in a christian home with a religious grandmother that always hoped for my sister and I to get married at an appropriate age to another Christian man and have kids.
Is it something you dont want to talk about in public or at all? If you do you can pm me. If not I appreciate your response either way. I can see how enviornmental factors could possibly play a role in someones sexuality.
 
don’t feed the bread folks…

But to comment on the topic, lol… If people are bien gay, or if it’s gods plan, either way it would be predetermined..

Have fun figuring out why you have an obsession with sexuality, specially gay, and kids…
 
Bread just download Grindr if you still have doubts either way people in VGC know and we support you
Bread I gotta say, coming from someone who is very comfortable with their sexuality, you’ll feel better if you just come out.

But we are here to answer any more questions buddy.
 
I'm not sure Id agree agree that asking :"why are you gay" is an attack, or micro aggression (whatever that is) users who are gay are mostly ok posting/responding so...

hopefully this can stay civil and be respectful and not go full on **** show
how is it not a micro aggression? i already stated how it's basically working on the premise that it's their choice by asking that question. are you that absolutely thick that you don't understand the basic foundations of the language he's using? there's absolutely nothing respectful about this thread. he is the shitshow you're referring to here.
 
how is it not a micro aggression? i already stated how it's basically working on the premise that it's their choice by asking that question. are you that absolutely thick that you don't understand the basic foundations of the language he's using? there's absolutely nothing respectful about this thread. he is the shitshow you're referring to here.
Perhaps @H.R. PufnStuf thinks @Bread. needs a dictionary assist?

Why are you gay?
The term "gay" is an adjective used to describe someone who is romantically or sexually attracted to exclusively individuals who identify as the same gender as they do. So why is someone gay? Because they are romantically or sexually attracted to their same gender. You're welcome.
 
how is it not a micro aggression? i already stated how it's basically working on the premise that it's their choice by asking that question. are you that absolutely thick that you don't understand the basic foundations of the language he's using? there's absolutely nothing respectful about this thread. he is the shitshow you're referring to here.

curb your micro agression. You are the one disrespecting people by making smart remarks about other peoples sexualities intended to imply a sexuality which they dont identify as.

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Perhaps @H.R. PufnStuf thinks @Bread. needs a dictionary assist?


The term "gay" is an adjective used to describe someone who is romantically or sexually attracted to exclusively individuals who identify as the same gender as they do. So why is someone gay? Because they are romantically or sexually attracted to their same gender. You're welcome.
Thank you but your assistance is not required as i did not ask what is gay, I asked why are you gay. I want to know why people identify as gay. If you find this intrusive then move onto the next thread. I dont need to justify my sexual orientation with idiots like stubleu and you dont need to explain your sexual orientation to me either. Nobody is forcing you to share anything so carry on if you just want to try to insult my intelligence.
 
Thank you but your assistance is not required as i did not ask what is gay, I asked why are you gay. I want to know why people identify as gay. If you find this intrusive then move onto the next thread. I dont need to justify my sexual orientation with idiots like stubleu and you dont need to explain your sexual orientation to me either. Nobody is forcing you to share anything so carry on if you just want to try to insult my intelligence.
why are you straight?
 
Thank you but your assistance is not required as i did not ask what is gay, I asked why are you gay. I am seeking why people identify as gay.
I thought I answered that in my post, but I will try again. People identify as gay when they have an attraction to individuals of their same gender and feel that adjective most accurately describes their sexual orientation.

If you find this intrusive then move onto the next thread. I dont need to justify my sexual orientation with idiots like stubleu and you dont need to explain your sexual orientation to me either. Nobody is forcing you to share anything so carry on if you just want to try to insult my intelligence.
I wasn't insulting your intelligence. If my prior response doesn't answer your question, could you perhaps rephrase the question?
 
I thought I answered that in my post, but I will try again. People identify as gay when they have an attraction to individuals of their same gender and feel that adjective most accurately describes their sexual orientation.


I wasn't insulting your intelligence. If my prior response doesn't answer your question, could you perhaps rephrase the question?
Is that why you do?
I dont see the point in responding for other people when the question is directed at individuals. That why i used the pronoun YOU in my OP.
To listen to different perspectives.
 
, if a gay person doesn't know why they are gay, how could they know they are gay?
because they’d still know and sleep with the same sex you fucking idiot.

Your bollocks bullshit story doesn’t wash with anyone either. But if it is true, then no wonder
 
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Sorry for your loses. By all probability i am astonished at how many people turned out to be gay in your household when your parents disapprove of it. Do you think perhaps your sexuality was a rebellion to your parents for as how your siblings were treated or what happened to your sibling?

And this is why. If anyone else makes a mention of the lgbt community they immediately start to harass and label them homophobes. They are doing the very thing they wish not to be done onto them.

You are the only one implying anything. You dont know what im looking for, you are not a mind reader and you are not my brain.

I am asking for experiences.

These people hate me because of my sexuality and religion. The only time they do is when they want to bully someone just as theyre allowing this person to harass me.


I am not questioning my own sexuality.
If I could delete what I said I would, that's why I said if that was your intentions. I didn't believe they were you intentions. I hope you dont get banned over this, this chat likes to mix up the words of other users to make them look like they are a bad guy. All I can say is my apologies and I truly mean that.


Do you think perhaps your sexuality was a rebellion to your parents for as how your siblings were treated or what happened to your sibling?

I don't really know how to answer that. I don't think it was a rebellion, I can't speak for my siblings, but for me definitely not. I was a rebel in different ways to my parents but definitely not in what I like or dislike. If that makes sense

because they’d still know and sleep with the same sex you fucking idiot.

Your bollocks bullshit story doesn’t wash with anyone either. But if it is true, then no wonder you torture cats you Dahmer freak
K'know what? You can just shut up, because your rude opinion isn't needed in this thread, you can either say why your gay, or get the heck back to EE and talk scrap about me there. You don't know anything about me, and I'm not arguing with you either. Have a good day Luka
 
Why am I gay? Dunno. Wiener seems to like men. Tried asking, didn’t respond. Just pissed on the floor.

So that’s why I’m gay. 💁🏼‍♂️
 
well i am a lesbian so i duno how i answer this a one

thanks

B
 
I'm not sure Id agree that asking :"why are you gay" is an attack, or micro aggression (whatever that is) users who are gay are mostly ok posting/responding so...

hopefully this can stay civil and be respectful and not go full on **** show
Context matters. The OP is known for this and should be prevented from making this kind of post imo.

It’s like allowing a known Nazis to say “Question for the Jews. Why are you a Jew?”

I think a related and relevant question for the OP would be:

Why are you a ****?
 
I'm not sure Id agree that asking :"why are you gay" is an attack, or micro aggression (whatever that is) users who are gay are mostly ok posting/responding so...

hopefully this can stay civil and be respectful
Context matters. The OP is known for this and should be prevented from making this kind of post imo.

It’s like allowing a known Nazis to say “Question for the Jews. Why are you a Jew?”

I think a related and relevant question for the OP would be:

Why are you a ****?
I dont identify as a nazi or whatever you are claiming to identify me as.

Identity is self-perception. No one has the right to label me.

Im not a nazi but Jews are people from a cultural community who follow the tradition of Judaism.
Judaism is a religion.

You should follow the UMs advice to stay civil and respectful.
 
I dont identify as a nazi or whatever you are claiming to identify me as.

Identity is self-perception. No one has the right to label me.

Im not a nazi but Jews are people from a cultural community who follow the tradition of Judaism.
Judaism is a religion.

You should follow the UMs advice to stay civil and respectful.
Intentions count.

what was your intention in creating this thread?
 
They are listed on page 1.
To hear personal opinions/experiences of why people identify as gay
Then if you are being genuine on all accounts, no matter any past behaviour or anyone who may not like you or your antics, nothing rule breaking is happening.

go on then.
 
Im not a nazi
Congratulations honey

I dont identify as a nazi or whatever you are claiming to identify me as.
I’m not claiming you’re a Nazi. I’m not claiming you’re anything hence why I asked why you’re a ****

You should follow the UMs advice to stay civil and respectful.
You should learn to read. I wasn’t disrespectful to anyone sweet cheeks
 
Everything you post is a farce where you are the punchline to the worst joke. You hide behind twisted words and validated by incompetent fools.
Do you feel accomplished by posting your agressive disrespectful opinion?
Congratulations honey


I’m not claiming you’re a Nazi. I’m not claiming you’re anything hence why I asked why you’re a ****


You should learn to read. I wasn’t disrespectful to anyone sweet cheeks
You should learn to read your poor analogy

Your analogy states a nazi asking a Jew why they are Jewish is wrong.
A nazi is a label for a person belonging to a fascist group that killed millions of Jews.
You are telling everyone that me asking a gay person why they are gay is wrong.
Therefore you must me labeling me

For someone that identifies as gay and doesnt like when people label you. You sure like to place labels on people.
 
@Bread. - though it seems you've developed dislikes by many on here..
A lot of people here cant openly have discussions wiithout resulting to insults and agression.

There are many people that like me, including people from the LGBT community who personally DM me to tell me I am stating facts and agree with the stuff i talk about in some of the threads i make. I have just as many lgbt friends as i do straight friends.

The opinion of a person who cant remain civil and respectful is not worth much to me anyway.
 
A lot of people here cant openly have discussions wiithout resulting to insults and agression.

There are many people that like me, including people from the LGBT community who personally DM me to tell me I am stating facts and agree with the stuff i talk about in some of the threads i make. I have just as many lgbt friends as i do straight friends.

The opinion of a person who cant remain civil and respectful is not worth much to me anyway.

Why do you persist to retain yourself on #1 Chat Avenue if you find the people here unwelcoming of your opinions?
 
Why do you persist to retain yourself on #1 Chat Avenue if you find the people here unwelcoming of your opinions?
Because the real problems start when people cant have an open dialogue.
Dialogue is not only about expressing opinions but about listening to them as well.

If it were not for dialogue, we wouldnt have Gay rights and we would still have the Stonewall Riots.

However, this requires everyone to remain civil and respectful like the UM @H.R. PufnStuf stated.
Unfortunately there is people like Inkandtatt and StubleU whos goal is to be disruptive and harbor hatred.
 
Because the real problems start when people cant have an open dialogue.
Dialogue is not only about expressing opinions but about listening to them as well.

If it were not for dialogue, we wouldnt have Gay rights and we would still have the Stonewall Riots.

However, this requires everyone to remain civil and respectful like the UM @H.R. PufnStuf stated.
Unfortunately there is people like Inkandtatt and StubleU whos goal is to be disruptive and harbor hatred.
I understand

Well both those men are only 2 people that utilise #1 Chat Avenue Forums, irrespective if one of them may be a Room Admin or not.

Every staff position here is easily disposable as many would know by now and partiality in the "general sense" is not liked by the owners or as I like to call them "The Rothchilds".

There is a culture here by some (and those long term users mostly) who have stubborn views and hold certain labels on many, many Forum Members, that goes beyond "simply having a dig for a joke on a person" but that only goes to show more about them and their character.

I do not know how your past manners were, though, I do remember your name and you not being spoken of in a positive light.

In any case we are on the internet, so you can never know a person intimately just by typing to them or by one thread or two.

And I gather that this response will not be liked by some, tough titties.
 
I understand

Well both those men are only 2 people that utilise #1 Chat Avenue Forums, irrespective if one of them may be a Room Admin or not.

Every staff position here is easily disposable as many would know by now and partiality in the "general sense" is not liked by the owners or as I like to call them "The Rothchilds".

There is a culture here by some (and those long term users mostly) who have stubborn views and hold certain labels on many, many Forum Members, that goes beyond "simply having a dig for a joke on a person" but that only goes to show more about them and their character.

I do not know how your past manners were, though, I do remember your name and you not being spoken of in a positive light.

In any case we are on the internet, so you can never know a person intimately just by typing to them or by one thread or two.

And I gather that this response will not be liked by some, tough titties.
I do agree with you here.

The people leading this place are the reason it has been led into the ground, where their hatred festers

They are the paradigm for the saying "do as i say not as i do"

They should be setting the example. But that is difficult to do when they are policing themselves.
Thats they force their stubborn views, label and ostracize people that they do not like.
This is the literal definition of systemic exclusion.
 
I do agree with you here.

The people leading this place are the reason it has been led into the ground, where their hatred festers

They are the paradigm for the saying "do as i say not as i do"

They should be setting the example. But that is difficult to do when they are policing themselves.
Thats they force their stubborn views, label and ostracize people that they do not like.
This is the literal definition of systemic exclusion.
but all of that also happens in real life too to be fair.
 
I would get in pm with @Inkandtatts bread. You seem very confused, interested, and obsessed with homosexuality as a whole.

He should help you clear this up sweet cheeks.
you like sweet cheeks aye?

you wouldn't happen to like hairy sweet cheeks son would ya?

hehehehehehe
 
I do agree with you here.

The people leading this place are the reason it has been led into the ground, where their hatred festers

They are the paradigm for the saying "do as i say not as i do"

They should be setting the example. But that is difficult to do when they are policing themselves.
Thats they force their stubborn views, label and ostracize people that they do not like.
This is the literal definition of systemic exclusion.
You keep saying this without validating or clarifying the full extent of the expressions.

Let's make this clear. I, and others I'm sure, have absolutely no tolerance for the sort of bigotry you have. Regardless how God damn pious you are about it. You are full of hateful and intolerance. I have no need for that in the world. That's very different from wanting to invalidate someone's existence in the way you do.

Your facts are subjective at best. Now sit like I told you to do, bitch.
 
Posted his cheeks 😂, not his face.

Hes also posted many underwear pics… mm

Step aside MA chicken soup while I investigate further...

OI @Bread. - you spreadin' ya arse all over ChatAve or wot? Go on luv, no judgements here, just tell me the truth - but if it's true, ya picked the wrong room ya NONCE.

ffs, so what else did he do?

Go on Soupie Soups, I won't thicken ya soup if ya tell moi @SouporMan
 
😂 it was before the meds, I saved a flash drive, went full chatard.

It’s fairly old but he stopped after the criticism.
That doesn't make it anymore acceptable to keep loose soup lol - i mean for sure, if it was a well shaped "bottom" and right up ya alley then aha - oh gawd help us.

Arse pics and all, wot you doin' with them all? Making arse flags?
 
You keep saying this without validating or clarifying the full extent of the expressions.

Let's make this clear. I, and others I'm sure, have absolutely no tolerance for the sort of bigotry you have. Regardless how God damn pious you are about it. You are full of hateful and intolerance. I have no need for that in the world. That's very different from wanting to invalidate someone's existence in the way you do.

Your facts are subjective at best. Now sit like I told you to do, bitch.
Is that not what youve been doing in the entirety of your responses in this thread.
 
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