I'm always seeing commercials about young boys watching their fathers (or some other man) being abusive to women. The message: Teach boys that violence against women is wrong.
Okay but ... where are all the commercials teaching young girls that they don't have to put up with that crap? :dontknow:
ΩcatΩ;2912158 said:You know that some women become sucked into abusive relationships sometimes for a variety of reasons, but one in particular is when her family can actually see what kind of man she's tying herself to and do everything to warn her about him. They kind of want to try to prove to their family that they're wrong, so once the man begins to control her they're ashamed to now go back and admit their mistake.
Also when kids are involved then it's a woman's priority to run for it as fast as they can. These days there's much more help for victims of domestic violence unlike years ago when it was looked on as the norm.
My college Psych Professor also said that the way men treat animals (especially pets) is a strong indicator of whether or not a guy is abusive. If your guy has a habit of kicking the dog, then that's a bad sign.
I don't know of many physically abusive women. I think most women abuse in other ways, like belittling their partners, telling him he's not good enough, etc. The point is--men or women--people tend to do whatever they think they can get away with; they'll walk all over you if you let them.
Sadly, too many women allow themselves to be mistreated. If every female put her foot down and took a stand that she will not be treated that way, the overwhelming majority of guys would straighten their act out real quick. :lol:
I'm always seeing commercials about young boys watching their fathers (or some other man) being abusive to women. The message: Teach boys that violence against women is wrong.
Okay but ... where are all the commercials teaching young girls that they don't have to put up with that crap? :dontknow:
I hate people who abuse women, its wrong and something a coward does.I've had a few people come and ask me about this, so I thought maybe a few people in forums may be able to use this information. Please feel free to comment. I'm always here if anyone needs to talk!
(Credit: This information was given to me by my friend Amanda whom was a counsellor with The Domestic Violence shelter and the Crisis Center)
12 signs of a controlling personality and potential abuser
1. Jealousy
2. Blames others (including you) for his faults, him being the way he is
3. Blames circumstances for his problems (it's not me, it's how life is treating me)
4. His behaviour is unpredictable and you don't know what to expect from him at any time, in particular how he may greet you
5. He belittles you verbally, tries to take away your self-esteem and self-respect
6. He cannot control his anger and directs his anger at you regardless if his anger is due to something he feels you did or someone/something else
7. He always asks for a second chance to behave better
8. He says he'll change, that he won't do it again, after he's finished his tirade
9. His family resolves problems with violence, a history of violent behavior in his family, with brothers and sisters, against parents, his parents were argumentative and/or abusers
10. He plays on your guilt. (If you loved me, you'd...")
11. His behaviour often worsens when he uses alcohol or drugs, easily becoming uncontrollable
12. He is close-minded. His way is the only way and you'd better always do as he says.
Here is some numbers you can call for help...more will be added as I find them!
For USA calls:
The hotline for spouse abuse and domestic violence in the United States is 1-800-799-7233. They can refer you to women's shelters and other services in your area.
Here is another number: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
For UK calls:
The 24-hour freephone number is: 0808 2000 247
For Canada
Phone: (613) 957-2938
TTY Toll-free: 1-800-561-5643
Toll-free: 1-800-267-1291
For Australia
Phone: (03) 9486-9866
TTY: (03) 9417-2155
For Hotline for Muslim women and girls in the U.K
Phone: 0181 904 8193 or 0181 908 6715
For Sweden
Phone: 08-422 99 30
For Northern Ireland
Phone: (028) 90 249041
Helpline: (028) 90 331818
For Nottelefon Zurich
Phone: 01-291 46 46
For Provincial Association of Transition Houses of Saskatchewan
Phone: (306) 522-3515
For Scottish Women's Aid
Phone: 0131 475 2372
For Philippines
Phone: 430 4207/430 4227
and this is why I choose to be alone .. don't want to have to go to prison for murder..I've had a few people come and ask me about this, so I thought maybe a few people in forums may be able to use this information. Please feel free to comment. I'm always here if anyone needs to talk!
(Credit: This information was given to me by my friend Amanda whom was a counsellor with The Domestic Violence shelter and the Crisis Center)
12 signs of a controlling personality and potential abuser
1. Jealousy
2. Blames others (including you) for his faults, him being the way he is
3. Blames cir***stances for his problems (it's not me, it's how life is treating me)
4. His behaviour is unpredictable and you don't know what to expect from him at any time, in particular how he may greet you
5. He belittles you verbally, tries to take away your self-esteem and self-respect
6. He cannot control his anger and directs his anger at you regardless if his anger is due to something he feels you did or someone/something else
7. He always asks for a second chance to behave better
8. He says he'll change, that he won't do it again, after he's finished his tirade
9. His family resolves problems with violence, a history of violent behavior in his family, with brothers and sisters, against parents, his parents were argumentative and/or abusers
10. He plays on your guilt. (If you loved me, you'd...")
11. His behaviour often worsens when he uses alcohol or drugs, easily becoming uncontrollable
12. He is close-minded. His way is the only way and you'd better always do as he says.
Here is some numbers you can call for help...more will be added as I find them!
For USA calls:
The hotline for spouse abuse and domestic violence in the United States is 1-800-799-7233. They can refer you to women's shelters and other services in your area.
Here is another number: National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3224.
For UK calls:
The 24-hour freephone number is: 0808 2000 247
For Canada
Phone: (613) 957-2938
TTY Toll-free: 1-800-561-5643
Toll-free: 1-800-267-1291
For Australia
Phone: (03) 9486-9866
TTY: (03) 9417-2155
For Hotline for Muslim women and girls in the U.K
Phone: 0181 904 8193 or 0181 908 6715
For Sweden
Phone: 08-422 99 30
For Northern Ireland
Phone: (028) 90 249041
Helpline: (028) 90 331818
For Nottelefon Zurich
Phone: 01-291 46 46
For Provincial Association of Transition Houses of Saskatchewan
Phone: (306) 522-3515
For Scottish Women's Aid
Phone: 0131 475 2372
For Philippines
Phone: 430 4207/430 4227