How Much Do I Have To Put Up With?

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KylieB

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Just wondering how much racism, sexism, and threats of violence are acceptable here. This guy has been banned, but let back on. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like there should be a reasonable expectation safety when you come here and threats against your life (MULTIPLE TIMES) would not be accepted.

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Realxavier said:
I’ll be honest I’m so confused about how to feel about this particular topic and I’m extremely scared to even express it because of backlash but here it goes. I do not condone racism in any part of my life but I also can’t condone muting a humans personal opinions. Obviously some stuff fs but it’s not even about race it’s about trying to control what someone says aloud. I mean one day society will have everything socially unexceptable censored freedom of speech will be will be freedom to whisper ur speech. I mean all lives matter (all life) we can’t control what others feel or think we don’t want that there is no way we want that ever. But we can ignore it and get past it. The same freedom they have to speak their bs is the same freedom we have to have our own opinions of them and filter what we take from them. Idk this is my own opinion and it’s probs gonna get backlash even tho I am disgusted by the comments but it’s how I feel.
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The issue of free speech sometimes comes up in the Adult Chat rooms when I tell people that they must speak English. They tell me I’m racist and they have their 1st Amendment rights. I tell those people to research the 1st Amendment and also understand what freedom of speech really means. Often times they don’t really understand the concept or law. Freedom of speech doesn’t apply here and the owners of this site determine what is or is not allowed. If they decide the word taco is forbidden and anyone who uses it gets banned, they could do that. It’s their site.
 
KylieB said:
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Just wondering how much racism, sexism, and threats of violence are acceptable here. This guy has been banned, but let back on. Maybe it's just me, but I feel like there should be a reasonable expectation safety when you come here and threats against your life (MULTIPLE TIMES) would not be accepted.

Peace & Love
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Hold the phone a minute sweetheart.

Couple things I wanna point out here.

1. Nothing and no amount of mods will EVER stop half the stuff that goes on here.
2. If anyone was serious enough to carry out a threat against your life they wouldn't be publically posting it several times. Paranoid much?
3. Also if you follow the safety guidelines inconjuction with the use of some basic common sense, I fail to see any threat to you. It's probably coming from half way round the world. Don't take everything so seriously.

^^ I know certain peoples will come at me for such a comment. Too bad that's my opinion, pretty please don't threaten to kill me anyone.
 
Chopper said:
Hold the phone a minute sweetheart.

Couple things I wanna point out here.

1. Nothing and no amount of mods will EVER stop half the stuff that goes on here.
2. If anyone was serious enough to carry out a threat against your life they wouldn't be publically posting it several times. Paranoid much?
3. Also if you follow the safety guidelines inconjuction with the use of some basic common sense, I fail to see any threat to you. It's probably coming from half way round the world. Don't take everything so seriously.

^^ I know certain peoples will come at me for such a comment. Too bad that's my opinion, pretty please don't threaten to kill me anyone.
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Ok... in response to my question... we originally were at 1000 times was acceptable. You have now up'd it to "unlimited" is acceptable. Thank you for your input.
 
No one here is saying that racist or offensive behaviour or words are acceptable because it’s not at all. How do u tell someone what they are allowed to express regardless of how bad it is without it affecting individuals right to live. You can express your concern for their thoughts but u can not control them. Accounts will be banned here every day and some of those will come back with new accounts. Idk what I’m tryna say is ig if you don’t like what someone says why take it to heart why consider it bullying why not just ignore it knowing it’s crap coming from sad idiots with a clouded opinion of life. Words from the irrelevants should never hurt you. They have no meaning it’s like trying to figure out why tf there is corn in ur shlt when u never ate corn. Who cares it’s irrelevant it’s still just shlt, flush it and walk tf away. All the time put into making someone pay for crap they say is a lot more time then hitting ignore especially since it takes very little time for them to make a new account and be right back not on ignore cuz it’s a new account.
 
Realxavier said:
No one here is saying that racist or offensive behaviour or words are acceptable because it’s not at all. How do u tell someone what they are allowed to express regardless of how bad it is without it affecting individuals right to live. You can express your concern for their thoughts but u can not control them. Accounts will be banned here every day and some of those will come back with new accounts. Idk what I’m tryna say is ig if you don’t like what someone says why take it to heart why consider it bullying why not just ignore it knowing it’s crap coming from sad idiots with a clouded opinion of life. Words from the irrelevants should never hurt you. They have no meaning it’s like trying to figure out why tf there is corn in ur shlt when u never ate corn. Who cares it’s irrelevant it’s still just shlt, flush it and walk tf away. All the time put into making someone pay for crap they say is a lot more time then hitting ignore especially since it takes very little time for them to make a new account and be right back not on ignore cuz it’s a new account.
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...aaaand what I got from your post is: it is never acceptable AND it is always acceptable.
 
KylieB said:
Ok... in response to my question... we originally were at 1000 times was acceptable. You have now up'd it to "unlimited" is acceptable. Thank you for your input.
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If you take everything so seriously I feel sorry for you. Chat ave has done you a massive injustice. Sheeesh. Didn't you used to be a mod?
 
KylieB said:
Not "Chat Ave"... only certain people...
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I spoke to one of the ******** in General Chat and he told me you work as a psychologist. From observing your previous posts, I get the impression that you have trouble letting go, which you probably are familiar with, since you likely have more than a basic knowledge of the human psyche. It seems you’re trying to make your obsessions go away by performing compulsions, in your case making numerous threads in which you obsess over ********. You seem like a person who gets easily obsessed over trivial and mundane things. Instead of using the ignore function, and simply muting obnoxious ********, you seek attention and ask us to solve your problems. It is time you got your act together, instead of depending on others to do your dirty work for you. Try to become independent and self-reliant for starters. Move out of your parents house and get a life of your own. Just let go of your obsessions and desires and enjoy life for once.
 
KylieB said:
...aaaand what I got from your post is: it is never acceptable AND it is always acceptable.
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Ok here I’ll make it simple. The name of your thread is “How Much Do I Have To Put Up With?” Here is the simple response. You don’t to put up with anything. you have the ability to ignore, block, log off, turn off, walk away, smash ur device, holes in the walls or whatever but the power is all yours.
 
I agree in part with everyone saying ignore is the way to go. It’s simple and easy and solves the problem…. Unless the troll then decides to use guest accounts which happens way more often than it should.

What I don’t agree with is saying that punishment is impeaching on anyone’s freedom of speech. First and foremost, freedom of speech doesn’t exist on this site. It’s a private entity and has the right to censor whatever it wishes. Secondly, freedom of speech does not mean freedom from consequences.

I’m sure the mods involved here do what they can when they can, but I don’t like this chst culture of essentially telling the victim of an attack to use the ignore feature to solve the problem. As @rapinoes smirking revenge said, what’s the use in having mods then?

And I don’t like that people are essentially victim blaming someone who has used these forums as they’re supposed to be used. But hey, opinions are a great thing and I’m sure a few people are gonna be telling me to **** off.

In conclusion, take bloody action against racist pricks instead of telling others to use block. In my opinion, that gives the troll justification to continue.

Thanks for listening.
 
DontCostYaNuffin said:
I spoke to one of the ******** in General Chat and he told me you work as a psychologist. From observing your previous posts, I get the impression that you have trouble letting go, which you probably are familiar with, since you likely have more than a basic knowledge of the human psyche. It seems you’re trying to make your obsessions go away by performing compulsions, in your case making numerous threads in which you obsess over ********. You seem like a person who gets easily obsessed over trivial and mundane things. Instead of using the ignore function, and simply muting obnoxious ********, you seek attention and ask us to solve your problems. It is time you got your act together, instead of depending on others to do your dirty work for you. Try to become independent and self-reliant for starters. Move out of your parents house and get a life of your own. Just let go of your obsessions and desires and enjoy life for once.
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This coming from the guy who continually posted sex alien gifs? What does it matter what she does for a job, she has every right to respected in chat, now if he was speaking to a mod or the wonderful HR he would be kicked no problem talking like that. Remove trouble makers and use ignore? when he continually changes names and returns to chat or as we have got now spam spam spam until HR makes him promise to behave and its a miracle hes back in the room as hes learnt his lesson now NOT.
 
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