I've never been in a relationship or dated before and it frustrates me that I never have?

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Iloveit2

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I've never been kissed by a man. I've never held hands with a man. I've never had sex with a man . I've still don't have children of my own yet and all that other stuff and I'm 34.
 
purplerose said:
i suggest you also dont jump into a relationship just because you havent been. @Finn2.0 did that once and it lasted 45 minutes. it was cringe to watch...
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But wasn't the relationship with you?
I agree with your response to the OP as far as not rushing into anything but as Janis Joplin once said, "Get it while you can, Don't turn your back on love. "
 
Iloveit2 said:
What does that mean?
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It means you are probably fat or ugly and/or have low self esteem issues.

If you want to be approached by someone work on the former
If you are not letting yourself be approached work on the latter

Your relationship status does not change your worth.
 
BlackLivesMatter said:
But wasn't the relationship with you?
I agree with your response to the OP as far as not rushing into anything but as Janis Joplin once said, "Get it while you can, Don't turn your back on love. "
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Not in lifetime. It was with a certain ranting, notification flooding, tomato face giving user.
 
Bread. said:
It means you are probably fat or ugly and/or have low self esteem issues.

If you want to be approached by someone work on the former
If you are not letting yourself be approached work on the latter

Your relationship status does not change your worth.
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You are wrong for calling someone ugly.
 
i remember dreading to be in a relationship and it even got me depressed but once i got a bf and it ended i am glad i expereicned it cuz im not gonna date for a while. not worth it. focus on my self. plus i still get s3x without the relationshipa
 
Iloveit2 said:
But it's still wrong because it's in nobodies control of how they look. We were not all made to look the same.
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There is a degree of control. I'm just saying if you look like a fat slob that doesn't take care of themselves no one is ever going to approach you. Not extenuating circumstances like biology and health problems that affect your weight.

The way you carry yourself also determines your approachibility. There is plenty of "fat /ugly" chicks that still get attention simply because of their personality and self esteem.
 
Bread. said:
There is a degree of control. I'm just saying if you look like a fat slob that doesn't take care of themselves no one is ever going to approach you. Not extenuating circumstances like biology and health problems that affect your weight.

The way you carry yourself also determines your approachibility. There is plenty of "fat /ugly" chicks that still get attention simply because of their personality and self esteem.
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Homer Simpson GIF
 
Iloveit2 said:
How do I get attenion even if I'm considered to be ugly?
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As everyone says, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are people perceived as "ugly" by the general public who have no issues finding love. What you might consider to be ugly is beautiful to someone else, and so on. Everyone's opinions and preferences are different. If someone doesn't want you, that's not your problem. They're not worth the effort. You move on and find someone who will love you, and someone will love you. But putting yourself down because of what you THINK other people will think about you. Unless they outright say it's because they say you're ugly, you don't know why they haven't chosen you. Don't worry about it too much, enjoy the things you enjoy, and even having similar interests is enough for someone to approach you.
 
Iloveit2 said:
How do I get attenion even if I'm considered to be ugly?
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Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and there are a lot of factors which make a person desirable. Also in my long life I have found that when you are looking for love you never find it. Love will sneak up on you and smack you in the face. One thing I would say to you is to find your good qualities and affirm them daily.
 
Bread. said:
There is a degree of control. I'm just saying if you look like a fat slob that doesn't take care of themselves no one is ever going to approach you. Not extenuating circumstances like biology and health problems that affect your weight.

The way you carry yourself also determines your approachibility. There is plenty of "fat /ugly" chicks that still get attention simply because of their personality and self esteem.
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Ngl but calling ppl out maybe ?
 
Hi hun,
I’m sure there’s reasons why you are single and there’s no rush.
Erm I don’t know why you asked ppl struggling with dating irl this question but hope they gave you some insight
Iloveit2 said:
I've never been kissed by a man. I've never held hands with a man. I've never had sex with a man . I've still don't have children of my own yet and all that other stuff and I'm 34.
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Ken_Kaneki said:
I’m glad you find me entertaining 😊 key board warrior 🤭 have a nice life or whatever you have that u consider a life
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Making video to China school for online lectures atm but thanks. Best to you too, wherever life is taking you hun. It’s not a competition my side g
 
Ken_Kaneki said:
The thing is I don’t have to give u anything lol this is online right? So why assume someone you don’t know is uneducated? If I was broke you wouldn’t be seeking money out of me 🥴
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Common sense 😂 and thanks for validating my original statement 😂 Lolsies easy
 
Bread. said:
It means you are probably fat or ugly and/or have low self esteem issues.

If you want to be approached by someone work on the former
If you are not letting yourself be approached work on the latter

Your relationship status does not change your worth.
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The end of this message was great. The beginning ? Not so much. That was a pretty **** thing to say. Beauty is skin deep. Ugly runs all the way to the bone. . (@Bread.)

@Bread. is right about your relationship status not changing your worth though.

Don’t let it be a huge thing. (Relationships or sex)

Remember that other people may feel just as awkward as you do about it all. Try being forward with people.

At least you’re not 34 and have 3 bazillion exes.

You’re officially the most baggage-less 34 year old. Look at the bright side.
 
!tulsa! said:
The end of this message was great. The beginning ? Not so much. That was a pretty **** thing to say. Beauty is skin deep. Ugly runs all the way to the bone. . (@Bread.)

@Bread. is right about your relationship status not changing your worth though.

Don’t let it be a huge thing. (Relationships or sex)

Remember that other people may feel just as awkward as you do about it all. Try being forward with people.

At least you’re not 34 and have 3 bazillion exes.

You’re officially the most baggage-less 34 year old. Look at the bright side.
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Well this cut deep Tulsa. Nah kidding, you are good ppl. Someone will take a chance again on you.
Hopefully you don’t pick someone from here bro but if you do, make sure it’s not the one too proud to work on flaws and hang ups.
We are getting older and not so much wiser
 
it does tire me to see the same person that ho shames also bagging on someone who is for all intents and purposes chaste. . Is there anyone’s choices you do approve of or is it just constantly negging on everyone @Bread.
 
I agree. I don’t like dealing with it or talking bout it 😂
It all seems silly to me, for obvious reasons but what do I know bout love 😳
Yeh I doubt they will message again the same thing hopefully. Since a guy also messages bout her in chat 😂 ridiculous.

!tulsa! said:
Why would I fib about it? I’m happy where I’m at. Happy who I’m with too. 👀
Who pming you about me ? They should probably stop choosing to gossip.
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Now what was my statement, “it’s online, don’t expect much”
 
!tulsa! said:
Why would I fib about it? I’m happy where I’m at. Happy who I’m with too. 👀
Who pming you about me ? They should probably stop choosing to gossip.
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Seems as tho that moron feeds it. They believe the he said she said nonsense not surprised coming from that junkyard character
 
I totally understand how you feel—it can be really frustrating to see others in relationships when you haven't had that experience yet. Just remember, everyone’s journey is different, and there's no set timeline for these things. If you’re open to trying online dating, you might want to check out christian mingle. It’s a platform where you can connect with like-minded people who share your values, which could make dating feel a bit more comfortable and meaningful.
 
Well I have my approach/excuse to why I am single, never been in a relationship and in my forties:

"I am considering leaving the monastery"
 
I'm a Virgin who cares don't rush these things it will happen when the times right
 
Bread. said:
It means you are probably fat or ugly and/or have low self esteem issues.

If you want to be approached by someone work on the former
If you are not letting yourself be approached work on the latter

Your relationship status does not change your worth.
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That first sentence that you wrote is so rude. Why would you tell somebody oh probably they're fat and ugly and have low self-esteem? Asking for a friend.
Dont Be Rude GIF by ALLBLK
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I have to be honest, being in relationships can be overrated. I've personally been in one, and I found out the harsh way that it was not the right one that I dated. It felt right back then, but things changed the second I got back home from the vacation (could call it a romance actually). So yeah, but it was good when it lasted. Anyways, please, dont rush into things that are uncertain.
 
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