Um. Mental health?

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Leila_rose

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Well, let’s just say I’m struggling aha. I have been doing very well recently, but life is taking its toll on me and causing me to lose my mind.
I am struggling with body image and people calling me fat etc, which has lead me to starving myself. I am fed up with everything and I wish I was able to not listen to such dickheads.

Sorry lol
 
You're beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone says. I've been called fat before and it's not the best feeling but do I care? No. Instead, if someone calls me fat, I turn a negative into a positive and say aww that's so sweet thank you for the nice compliment. I've also struggled with body image in the past but as the years have went on, I've learned to accept myself for who I am. I used to allow what people say get to me but honestly, not anymore cause I'm almost 26 years old and I've come to the realization that I can't live my life worrying about what other people think of me. I've learned to just shrug it off and say by them bullying me, that makes them more of a low life and they obviously have nothing better to do than to be a bully. There's a lot of idiots in this world, but sometimes you have to gain that careless attitude. If someone calls you fat, laugh it off and say aww that's so sweet. Live your life for you, don't live it worrying about low life people. Don't live your life worrying about what other people think of you cause all it'll do is bring you down and make you depressed. Trust me, I've been there and it's not fun
 
Jack_Skellington said:
You're beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone says. I've been called fat before and it's not the best feeling but do I care? No. Instead, if someone calls me fat, I turn a negative into a positive and say aww that's so sweet thank you for the nice compliment. I've also struggled with body image in the past but as the years have went on, I've learned to accept myself for who I am. I used to allow what people say get to me but honestly, not anymore cause I'm almost 26 years old and I've come to the realization that I can't live my life worrying about what other people think of me. I've learned to just shrug it off and say by them bullying me, that makes them more of a low life and they obviously have nothing better to do than to be a bully. There's a lot of idiots in this world, but sometimes you have to gain that careless attitude. If someone calls you fat, laugh it off and say aww that's so sweet. Live your life for you, don't live it worrying about low life people. Don't live your life worrying about what other people think of you cause all it'll do is bring you down and make you depressed. Trust me, I've been there and it's not fun
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I’m trying not to let it get to me but it’s very hard
 
It'll be hard at first but I can guarantee that you'll be able to not let it get to you in no time. It was hard for me but after a while, I gained that careless attitude. You'll get there eventually hun
 
Jack_Skellington said:
You're beautiful and amazing no matter what anyone says. I've been called fat before and it's not the best feeling but do I care? No. Instead, if someone calls me fat, I turn a negative into a positive and say aww that's so sweet thank you for the nice compliment. I've also struggled with body image in the past but as the years have went on, I've learned to accept myself for who I am. I used to allow what people say get to me but honestly, not anymore cause I'm almost 26 years old and I've come to the realization that I can't live my life worrying about what other people think of me. I've learned to just shrug it off and say by them bullying me, that makes them more of a low life and they obviously have nothing better to do than to be a bully. There's a lot of idiots in this world, but sometimes you have to gain that careless attitude. If someone calls you fat, laugh it off and say aww that's so sweet. Live your life for you, don't live it worrying about low life people. Don't live your life worrying about what other people think of you cause all it'll do is bring you down and make you depressed. Trust me, I've been there and it's not fun
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That's good of you jack that's why you're my favorite general chat mod 💛🙏🙂
 
One day I saw this and it set me on a very different path in my life, one where I started to heal a lot on my own. I hope that maybe this will help you, maybe it will light a spark inside of you like it did for me.

to the person i am today:
I promise i will start loving you again. i just need to remember how it feels to be proud of you, to look in the mirror and be in awe of you. I just need to remember what it was like before i told you you weren't good enough. I buried you alive, piling doubt and loathing onto your body like soil, so only i can bring you back to life.
and i promise i will ❤️❤️
 
Dolonia said:
One day I saw this and it set me on a very different path in my life, one where I started to heal a lot on my own. I hope that maybe this will help you, maybe it will light a spark inside of you like it did for me.

to the person i am today:
I promise i will start loving you again. i just need to remember how it feels to be proud of you, to look in the mirror and be in awe of you. I just need to remember what it was like before i told you you weren't good enough. I buried you alive, piling doubt and loathing onto your body like soil, so only i can bring you back to life.
and i promise i will ❤️❤️
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Also this right here

The universe will keep handing you the same lessons, the same relationships, the same type of love and the same type of pain until you realise that the common denominator is you.
Until you are finally tired of your own patterns.
Until you finally love yourself enough to raise your standards and believe you are worthy of holding them. You see the thing is, until you learn to love yourself more, you will continue to accept the love that mirrors how you truly feel about yourself. The answer to everything you desire is within you ❤️
 
Dolonia said:
One day I saw this and it set me on a very different path in my life, one where I started to heal a lot on my own. I hope that maybe this will help you, maybe it will light a spark inside of you like it did for me.

to the person i am today:
I promise i will start loving you again. i just need to remember how it feels to be proud of you, to look in the mirror and be in awe of you. I just need to remember what it was like before i told you you weren't good enough. I buried you alive, piling doubt and loathing onto your body like soil, so only i can bring you back to life.
and i promise i will ❤️❤️
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I love this message, very powerful words, thank you for sharing 🦋
 
Dolonia said:
Also this right here

The universe will keep handing you the same lessons, the same relationships, the same type of love and the same type of pain until you realise that the common denominator is you.
Until you are finally tired of your own patterns.
Until you finally love yourself enough to raise your standards and believe you are worthy of holding them. You see the thing is, until you learn to love yourself more, you will continue to accept the love that mirrors how you truly feel about yourself. The answer to everything you desire is within you ❤️
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Love this!
 
Leila_rose said:
Well, let’s just say I’m struggling aha. I have been doing very well recently, but life is taking its toll on me and causing me to lose my mind.
I am struggling with body image and people calling me fat etc, which has lead me to starving myself. I am fed up with everything and I wish I was able to not listen to such dickheads.

Sorry lol
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Get away from these people who speak Ill of you if you can. You will notice a change in your mood. The only example I can give you is when people take breaks from these chat rooms or even social media. Even if they're not ridiculing you, they're negative and can effect your mental health without you noticing.

You're not fat and even if you were, being told it doesn't help any. Starving yourself will stunt your metabolism to where you will end up gaining weight even with consuming as little as 1k calories per day, please don't do that?

Get away from these people and think to yourself, is it you who wants to change your body or is it gaslighting and harassment from negative people that make you feel that way?

If you need any help with dieting and doing it the healthy way, feel free to pm me but please don't starve yourself because that leads to other problems.
 
I wanted to put my two cents in here since I struggle with very similar thoughts.
I saw you are 19 years old. You are very young and I’m so sorry you’re going through this battle in your head.
As someone who also has these thoughts and feelings (being called fat, hating my body) I know how much of a struggle it is.
I am almost 60 pounds down since July 2022, and let me tell you no matter how much weight you lose you will still have these feelings.
I look in the mirror and still see the girl who was 205 pounds…
I will tell you what helps my self confidence and my self esteem… I learned this in therapy by the way…
Every single morning or whenever you wake up go to your mirror. When you are at the mirror say one positive thing about yourself.. it could be something as simple as “my hair is so beautiful today.” Reverse psychology works very well on your brain. To get your confidence back you need to start trying to rewire your brain into thinking you are beautiful.. which you are by the way.

A bad way to lose weight is starving yourself.. when you do this your body loses its strength and muscles, you also have your body storing fat. If you’re interested in losing weight start by doing something simple… for me I started drinking diet soda instead of regular, I started moving myself more. Weight loss mostly happens in the kitchen, BUT.. you don’t have to give up the things you love. More moderation is key. Don’t beat yourself up, I know you can get your self confidence up. Please take care of yourself. ❤️

Remember you beautiful young girl, “My weight is none of your concern unless I’m sitting on your face.”
 
Boba Fett said:
Get away from these people who speak Ill of you if you can. You will notice a change in your mood. The only example I can give you is when people take breaks from these chat rooms or even social media. Even if they're not ridiculing you, they're negative and can effect your mental health without you noticing.

You're not fat and even if you were, being told it doesn't help any. Starving yourself will stunt your metabolism to where you will end up gaining weight even with consuming as little as 1k calories per day, please don't do that?

Get away from these people and think to yourself, is it you who wants to change your body or is it gaslighting and harassment from negative people that make you feel that way?

If you need any help with dieting and doing it the healthy way, feel free to pm me but please don't starve yourself because that leads to other problems.
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Thank you, I’ll pm you now
 
Kd. said:
I wanted to put my two cents in here since I struggle with very similar thoughts.
I saw you are 19 years old. You are very young and I’m so sorry you’re going through this battle in your head.
As someone who also has these thoughts and feelings (being called fat, hating my body) I know how much of a struggle it is.
I am almost 60 pounds down since July 2022, and let me tell you no matter how much weight you lose you will still have these feelings.
I look in the mirror and still see the girl who was 205 pounds…
I will tell you what helps my self confidence and my self esteem… I learned this in therapy by the way…
Every single morning or whenever you wake up go to your mirror. When you are at the mirror say one positive thing about yourself.. it could be something as simple as “my hair is so beautiful today.” Reverse psychology works very well on your brain. To get your confidence back you need to start trying to rewire your brain into thinking you are beautiful.. which you are by the way.

A bad way to lose weight is starving yourself.. when you do this your body loses its strength and muscles, you also have your body storing fat. If you’re interested in losing weight start by doing something simple… for me I started drinking diet soda instead of regular, I started moving myself more. Weight loss mostly happens in the kitchen, BUT.. you don’t have to give up the things you love. More moderation is key. Don’t beat yourself up, I know you can get your self confidence up. Please take care of yourself. ❤️

Remember you beautiful young girl, “My weight is none of your concern unless I’m sitting on your face.”
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Thank you beautiful, this really helped me, thank you both @Boba Fett and @Kd. 🥰
 
Hi, sorry I just saw this thread.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. You have gotten some good support here which is great to see. Support from friends and family and even kind “strangers” online can really make a difference in you getting to a more positive, happier place in your life. I also think connecting with a good therapist would be invaluable as another way to work through any issues you might be struggling with.
I know you already know this but my PMs are always open if you need anything. Hang in there, you will get through this. 💪🏻 😇
 
TheDifference said:
Hi, sorry I just saw this thread.
I’m sorry you’re struggling. You have gotten some good support here which is great to see. Support from friends and family and even kind “strangers” online can really make a difference in you getting to a more positive, happier place in your life. I also think connecting with a good therapist would be invaluable as another way to work through any issues you might be struggling with.
I know you already know this but my PMs are always open if you need anything. Hang in there, you will get through this. 💪🏻 😇
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Thank you lovely 🥰
 
Leila_rose said:
So so tired
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why don't you just be hopeful, faithful that something good will happen, come to you. maybe not today, it could happen in a few weeks or years. don't beat yourself up about things you cannot change, my mother died when I was 8, my father left me, my little sister when we was 10. you can't beat yourself up about things you cannot change. you just have to try accept it, if you can't change it try your hardest to move on.
 
Leo Bolkenstijn said:
why don't you just be hopeful, faithful that something good will happen, come to you. maybe not today, it could happen in a few weeks or years. don't beat yourself up about things you cannot change, my mother died when I was 8, my father left me, my little sister when we was 10. you can't beat yourself up about things you cannot change. you just have to try accept it, if you can't change it try your hardest to move on.
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I’m trying.
 
I've relayed this to others that have posted a similar thread. I wish you the best on your mental health recovery and journey. But Chat-Ave forums are probably not the best place to look for mental health advice. Seek professional help.
 
Thought this was UM
Grumpy Cat No GIF by Internet Cat Video Festival
Mental Health
 
Leila_rose said:
Hey! I’m okay, you?
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I am so glad that you're okay. I'm hanging in there. I was just cooking and I made myself something to eat a cheeseburger and mashed potatoes and my cheeseburgers on Italian toast bread. I got some doing okay right now. Just tired and exhausted. Have a good week. Be well and be safe. All the best. I love cooking. Do you love cooking?
 
May month is mental health.
If you need to talk I'll be happy to talk with you.
Some people struggle with it.
Mental health is serious. I don't take it lightly.
I have saved some peoples lies in real life.
 
Princessa said:
May month is mental health.
If you need to talk I'll be happy to talk with you.
Some people struggle with it.
Mental health is serious. I don't take it lightly.
I have saved some peoples lies in real life.
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Since I can't edit.

I have saved some peoples lives.
 
It's Mental Health Awareness Week here in the UK.

Despite outward appearances, no-one really knows what's going on behind the mask of a smile or a seemingly confident persona. This is even more so online where people tend to say more than they would in-person to others.

Think before you type. The person you're about to make a comment to could well have lost someone that day, they could be suffering with their self-image, struggling to come to terms with past experiences or have the weight of the world on their shoulders thinking about what's yet to come in their lives. Your comment could be the one thing that either pushes them over the edge or brightens their day. Be nice, people <3
 
lilyjone01 said:
Sorry to hear that! Stay strong, don't shift your focus to these false talks! Talk to your family or friend if you feel low! Stay mentally strong too!
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The OP posted that over a year ago so they may not respond. But that’s nice of you to try and help.
 
Leila_rose said:
Well, let’s just say I’m struggling aha. I have been doing very well recently, but life is taking its toll on me and causing me to lose my mind.
I am struggling with body image and people calling me fat etc, which has lead me to starving myself. I am fed up with everything and I wish I was able to not listen to such dickheads.

Sorry lol
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I'm so sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by negative comments and body image issues. Remember that you are not alone, and there are people who care about you and want to help.

Best regards
 
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